From Judging to Loving: Reflection on 5th Sunday of Lent’s Gospel

The 5th Sunday of Lent had a timing gospel that makes us think about how we can best approach women who enter an abortion facility. But most important of all, the way we encounter the workers.

Here’s the gospel reading (Note: Some heard a different reading if your parish had candidates in the RCIA program):

Jesus went to the Mount of Olives.
But early in the morning, he arrived again in the temple area,
and all the people started coming to him,
and he sat down and taught them.
Then the scribes and the Pharisees brought a woman
who had been caught in adultery
and made her stand in the middle.
They said to him,
“Teacher, this woman was caught
in the very act of committing adultery.
Now in the law, Moses commanded us to stone such women.
So what do you say?”
They said this to test him,
so that they could have some charge to bring against him.
Jesus bent down and began to write on the ground with his finger.
But when they continued asking him,
he straightened up and said to them,
“Let the one among you who is without sin
be the first to throw a stone at her.”
Again he bent down and wrote on the ground.
And in response, they went away one by one,
beginning with the elders.
So he was left alone with the woman before him.
Then Jesus straightened up and said to her,
“Woman, where are they?
Has no one condemned you?”
She replied, “No one, sir.”
Then Jesus said, “Neither do I condemn you. Go, and from now on do not sin anymore.”

The gospel reading is refreshing as we see once again the message of mercy. Jesus did not care what kind of a person the woman was. All he did was he showed love and mercy for her actions. He even drew on the ground while the Pharisees told him what she has done. His response? He asked them to cast the first stone. One by one they walked away and knew that they were judging.

Pro-lifers need to be more loving and less judging. Love conquers our judgments. If we show love and not care about the kind of a person he or she is, it can speak volume in our encounters. I have seen some people walk up to or shout at people and judge them as a whole, and they get judged in return. Not only does it happen to women going into the facility but also the workers. It is clear to me that we don’t deserve judgment from anyone else but God. People need love, not presumptive judgment.  Humility is the virtue we strongly need if we want to conquer our presumptions and pride. We are not perfect. At the same time, we don’t know everything and we must be willing to admit it.

Instead of casting our stones, let us cast mercy and love to the people we encounter.

Pro-Life Night at National Catholic Shrine in Doylestown

Dr. Monique Ruberu is inviting pro-lifers to attend a night to strengthen your convictions for the life cause. She will be the main speaker of the event.

The event will be held at the Shrine of Our Lady of Czestochowa, Doylestown, PA on Saturday, April 13 at 6:00 pm in the Conference Room (Visitor Center).

The event will include “Gosnell” Movie Screening & Discussion, prayer, and many pro-life vendors.

This is a free event. Free will donations are appreciated, and all proceeds will benefit the Poland Pilgrimage of the Youth Group.

Sue Thayer to Visit Philly/Allentown/Jersey Areas

The following is an email from Chris Davis who is a strategist for 40 Days for Life. He has alert that Sue Thayer, a former abortion provider in Iowa, will be in the area. I know many pro-lifers will learn how she stopped taking lives and now works with others to save lives. It will also plant the seeds for any of the abortion workers to one day walk away from Planned Parenthood.

We are very excited about Sue Thayer’s Philadelphia/New Jersey visits! She’s looking forward to joining all of you and plans to keep the following schedule:

Monday, April 1

  • Plainfield, NJ at 2:00 pm (FORMER Planned Parenthood, 123 Park Avenue, Plainfield, NJ) and 3:15 (Options, LLC, 1024 Park Ave, Plainfield, NJ)
  • Washington, NJat 6:30 pm (Planned Parenthood, 66 E Washington Ave, Washington, NJ)

Tuesday, April 2

  • Bethlehem, PA at 9:30 am (Allentown Women’s Center, 31 S Commerce Way, Bethlehem, PA)
  • Allentown, PA at noon (Planned Parenthood, 29 N 9th St, Allentown, PA)
  • Warminster, PA at 6:30 pm (Planned Parenthood – Warminster Medical Center, 610 Louis Dr, Warminster, PA)

Wednesday, April 3

  • Northeast Philadelphia, PAat noon (Planned Parenthood Surgical Center, 2751 Comly Rd, Philadelphia, PA)
  • Philadelphia (combined), PA at 6:30 pm (12th and Locust Planned Parenthood, 1144 Locust St, Philadelphia, PA)

Thursday, April 4

  •      Chester County, PA at 9:00 am (West Chester Planned Parenthood, 8 S Wayne St, West Chester, PA)

You can reach Sue at (979) 595-3174. This visit is intended to help generate publicity, grow your campaign, motivate participants, and celebrate God’s blessings during this campaign. Sue will also be delighted to share a meal with you and your team, to meet with any local pro-life or church leaders as may be helpful to you, and to conduct media interviews as possible.

We urge you and your team to make some advance preparations to help ensure that this visit is as useful for you and your campaign as possible. Here are our recommendations:

Request Media Coverage

  1. Create a list of local media that might consider covering your event. Include both secular and Christian television programs, radio programs, newspapers, magazines, and even blogs.
  1. Update and email the attached press release to the media on your list, to your participants, and to other organizations that might want to participate.
  1. Consider following your press release with a phone call the next day.
  1. Please take high-resolution photographs (at very least 1MB). A smartphone is all you need for this! Group photos are great! But please take some “action shots” too. Photograph people praying and holding signs. Photograph hands, feet, close-ups of faces. Photograph the abortion facility where you are praying or whatever you think tells the story. Consider enlisting a college student to do this! Send those photos to

Other Tips and Suggestions

  • Use the attached speaker biography and picture to promote the event.
  • Effective strategies for increasing event attendance include direct phone calling, bulk email, email messages to individuals and social media.
  • Arrange for someone to take pictures of the visit for local and national use.

We’ll be praying for you and your team.

Learn more about Sue Thayer here: Sue Thayer’s Interview

A Timely Reflection From Sunday’s Second Reading; Stand Firm for Faith

Sunday, March 17th marked the second Sunday of Lent. We have heard of a powerful reading from Paul’s Letter to the Philippians.

Here’s a recap:

Join with others in being imitators of me, brothers and sisters,
and observe those who thus conduct themselves
according to the model you have in us.
For many, as I have often told you
and now tell you even in tears,
conduct themselves as enemies of the cross of Christ.
Their end is destruction.
Their God is their stomach;
their glory is in their “shame.”
Their minds are occupied with earthly things.
But our citizenship is in heaven,
and from it, we also await a savior, the Lord Jesus Christ.
He will change our lowly body
to conform with his glorified body
by the power that enables him also
to bring all things into subjection to himself.

Therefore, my brothers and sisters,
whom I love and long for, my joy and crown,
in this way stand firm in the Lord.

This reading really speaks to us as we are two weeks into the current 40 Days Campaign. We have had our shares of triumph, sorrow, and woes. Times of being dissed for our stance in the abortion debate. More importantly, losing friendships because of our convictions. St Paul reminds us to stand firm. We must stand firm in protecting every innocent baby that is scheduled to die by an abortion provider near you. Let us stand tall and fight the forces of evil with our spiritual weapons, fasting, and almsgiving. Offer it up for those who mock and persecute you, the escorts, the workers, and even supporters of Planned Parenthood.

When the going gets hard, STAND FIRM FOR THE FAITH!

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Baby Save #3 in Philadelphia

The 40 Days Campaign has saved their third baby during the current campaign outside of the largest non-Planned Parenthood affiliate in Pennsylvania. The following is an email from Dr. Monique Ruberu that was sent to contacts involved with the campaign. Note: there are hours available this coming week that need to be filled with your love and mercy that must be emptied out to every person you will encounter.

From her email:

Holy Martyrs had taken the day… it was a Friday and things seemed quiet.

On the narrow alley that holds the nursery school next door to the abortion center where 6,000 babies lives are ended each year they stood… quietly… prayerfully… lovingly.

They continued to hope that even one of these mothers would have a change of heart.

She walked up to Bob Gilles…. and she said “I never had the procedure, sir… I changed my mind”  He was too shocked to know how to respond… he never thought this would happen on his watch…Thrilled but shocked!

But it can and does happen because when we show up and cover these people and places with love and prayer hearts and minds change.

God bless all of you for helping,

please join us this week:

Monday 3/18:

12th and locust: 2

Wed 3/20:

12th and Locust: 3

Thursday 3/21:

777 appletree: 1,2

Friday 3/22:

777 appletree: 11,12,1,2

Mon 3/25:

12th and locust: 9,10,11,12,1,2,3,4

Sign up at your local campaign site(s) here: 40 Days Sign Up

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Giving God permission

On Thursday, March 14th, 2019, I answered Monique’s call to fill a last-minute vacant hour outside of Planned Parenthood. That one hour turned into two. As I was going through the daily readings for that day, I realized that the Gospel of Matthew really spoke to me in a profound way. Here’s the full story from Dr. Ruberu, the coordinator of the 40 Days for Life campaign in Center City Philadelphia, who started the first campaign in the fall of 2014.

I began talking to a young man about my age who was waiting for his girlfriend who had an appointment. I opened his eyes on what was happening inside of Planned Parenthood and he was blown away.

Another gentleman saw my our Lady of Guadalupe rosary that my best friend gave me when we were in DC a couple of summers ago. I encouraged him to keep praying for the end of abortion.

My 10 AM had no escorts outside so I had no problem planting seeds by handing out our blessing bags to the women entering the facility.

For the first time, I had people walk past and commend me for being present.

I was later joined by Elaine Coyne. She had a calm and sweet approach to the women and workers coming in and out of PP.

I remember reviewing today’s gospel and it talks about asking and receiving. It turns out someone asked for a blessing bag and she received one. I never realized how rewarding it is to stand and let those who enter know that there is a better option than abortion.

I also recall hearing the story of how St. Teresa said to a newly ordained cardinal. She said to him these three simple words: “Give God Permission”. I felt like I just emptied myself that day and let God just take control of what I was doing by showering his love to everyone.

– so happy Mickey was there to fill one of our last minute hours…as did Joe Paganelli, Elaine Coyne, and Paula Terreri!!! Thank you all so much!

Loving One Another

The following is from an email sent out by Dr. Monique Ruberu.

When we can look into the eyes of every person. EVERY single person, and appreciate them for who they are, their beauty, their capacity to love AND love them all despite their views, their beliefs, the color of their skin, how kind or unkind they have been to us… then we know we are really doing HIS work.

Standing on the sidewalk may seem daunting or scary to some of you, but consider this:  While you are present for that hour. What if you were to understand that every person there… those passing by, those walking in and out of the abortion center, those standing as an escort… imagine them all as an extension of you.  They are our brothers and sisters created by God. They are flesh and blood just like you and me.

Then wouldn’t we WANT to be there? Wouldn’t we want to be the person that shares with them that they are loved, they are honored, they have access through our community to a new life, a new support system, a new community.  Wouldn’t we want every person to know that we LOVE them so much because as different as they may look, or sound, or dress, we can see ourselves in them? Wouldn’t we want them to know that even if they chose to do something that we were so saddened by, we could STILL be there to love them and show them kindness and compassion?

If we are not there, nobody will be there to show them.

If we are not there, nobody will be there to pray for these beautiful people.

If we are not there, we have ZERO chance of impacting their lives and the lives of the unborn babies at all.

So LET’S BE THERE! Let us stand in a state of love and compassion. Offering everything we possibly can to give support to the people who are involved in ending the lives of OUR family.  Let us look them in the eyes.. deep into their eyes and connect with them… let us let them know they are important, seen, and LOVED. Let’s band together to MOVE mountains, let’s create the impossible and be the key to transforming the lives of these men and women in need.

Friends, it’s so much more than standing in the cold for an hour. It’s doing everything we can to save our OWN flesh and blood. Our own brothers and sisters that have been created by OUR FATHER. This is NOT an option. I need all of you to do this.. we can’t afford to lose any more of our people.

I love you all and am deeply grateful for the sacrifices you have made to participate thus far. I have complete confidence that each and every one of you will step up and be present more than you have ever thought possible.

God bless,

Dr. Monique


Monday 3/11:

12th and locust: 3,4

Tuesday 3/12:

12th and locust: 9,3,4

Wed 3/13:

777 appletree: 12,1,2

Friday 3/15:

12th and locust:9,2,3,4

777 appletree: 12,1

To see the schedule and help fill those hours with love and prayer, Sign up here for your hours.

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Baby Save No. 2 in Philadelphia

Dr. Monique Ruberu sent out an email about another baby saved from abortion in two days. Here is an excerpt from the email:

The sun was shining thanks be to God, but it was so, so cold.  The kind of cold that seeps through and chills you to the bone. Joe took his reserved hour at 11:00, the 12 o’clock person had to cancel last minute, so he decided to try and stay on.

He may have thought about leaving at 1 but then Charlie and his brother Knights showed up. There is just something about praying with your friends… so he stayed on.

4 hours from the beginning of his shift. They were in the process of packing up and looking up the directions to close the vigil on their phone when a young girl approached the men.

“Can you help me?” they said, “yes, we have phone numbers for you right here!!” They immediately began writing down the help numbers from the vigil instructions.

They called the Philadelphia Community Women’s Center…they were ready to receive her immediately.  The men offered to drive her there,  but the girl said it would be better for her to go the following day.  The center set up the appointment for her, and the men continued to speak with her…

He asked if she was definitely pregnant.  She said “Yes, I was going to have an abortion but I changed my mind”

Before she left,  she turned to them and gave them all big hugs.

Suddenly the air didn’t feel so cold anymore. Each of these men were filled with such joy to have witnessed this event. Joe was so happy that he stayed and prayed.

Please keep T in your prayers, Lord help her to keep that appointment tomorrow and allow her child to live.

None of this would be possible without the sacrifice of those who prayed at the vigil today.

please join us on filling the remaining hours.

Tuesday 3/12:

12th and locust: 9,3,4

Wed 3/13:

12th and locust: 2,3,4

777 appletree: 12,1,2

Monday 3/18:

12th and locust: 9,1,2,3

Thurs 3/21:


Friday 3/22:


Don’t forget to let me know if you want tickets to “unplanned” on 3/28 at 7 pm

Please join us for the ST Patrick’s day parade on Sunday!

God bless,

Dr Monique

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First Save of 2019 Lenten Campaign in Philadelphia!

The following is from an email correspondence sent out to everyone from Dr. Monique Ruberu, recapping the first day of the 2019 Lenten Campaign

They saw her exiting the building… it was late in the afternoon at 777 appletree where 6000 babies lives are ended each year.

The sidewalk escorts no longer blocked their way as they headed in her direction. She no longer represented $$ for them.

Mary Jo and Peggy were convinced that the young mom had chosen abortion, so they approached her quietly hoping to offer love, resources, and support in this difficult moment.  Maryjo handed the pamphlet to the mom with the “Help after abortion” message visible to her.

She reached out and took the pamphlet. She read it and looked at them. In a quiet voice, she said, “I changed my mind”

They were overjoyed!! Stunned!! It was almost as if they had never witnessed a save before.  They were able to speak with her further and find out that she is newly pregnant with the baby due in November. She has been suffering from nausea and vomiting of pregnancy.  They were unsure if there were other concerns, but they informed her of all the phone numbers she could call to address her needs and assured her that HELP IS AVAILABLE!

Thank God for those who are willing to stand in the gap! God bless all of you! Every hour was covered today.

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Lent: What to Do

As I am posting this blog, many of us are scrambling to make a last minute decision to consider what to give up or do extra during these next forty days of Lent.

Well, let me assure you, it should not be as stressful as planning your wedding or any other momentous occasion.

These 40 Days of Lent are to be used as a time of self-reflection and even time of sacrifice. It is also a time to draw yourself even closer to our Lord and Savior who gave it all. So allow me to break down what you can do.


  • Visit adoration every week during the 6 week period
  • Participate in 40 Days campaigns near you or make the sacrifice to drive into another city of town
  • Give up bashing an abortion worker or volunteer (escorts included)
    • Offer a prayer or Holy Hour for their conversion (it’s a plus if you know their name)
  • Pray the Stations of the Cross and offer it for the victims of the silent holocaust of our time.
  • Pray instead of complaining about how challenging a task is in front
  • Give time or money to a homeless shelter or pregnancy center
  • If a pregnant woman changes her mind and needs help, throw a baby shower and offer to take her to the doctors and even babysit her other children (if she has any).
  • Do an extra chore
  • Offer your next communion for the repentance of those in the clergy who victimized minors.
  • Pray the mysteries of the rosary with a pro-life reflection. Here’s one that’s very powerful. A baby was saved outside of an abortion facility in Philadelphia when a warrior prayed 20 mysteries straight. Buy it here:
  • Pray the St. Joseph Novena (March 10th-18th)
  • Offer a Divine Mercy Chaplet for the conversion of those involved with abortion
  • Limit your use of the phone, unless you’re making a phone call.

Use these 40 Days to practice the works of mercy. (Hopefully, you know what they are) every 14 of them are important during the season of repentance and fasting. Use these 40 Days as a way to be closer to Jesus on the cross and to humble yourself when encountering those who hate you.